The Power of Allowing
I may have spoken about this in an earlier article but I want to speak again to this important issue. The power of allowing is an important part of our maturation as empowered Children of God. You may wonder what does allowing have to with being empowered. Doesn’t that imply that if we allow others to do what they want they will have power over us? Controlling takes away from our power, doesn’t it?
Yes, that seems to be true but the truth of the matter is that when we learn to allow others to follow their paths then we have the power and energy to follow our own path. Aren’t we supposed to make sure that we all follow the straight and narrow and do “Gods Work?” If we don’t, we are not doing “God’s work, right?”
What is “God’s work?” What do we have to do with what He wants? How can we “mere mortals” do His work anyway? And if He is so omnipotent then what does He need us for in the first place?
First of all “God’s work” is about bringing His Love to the world. (Can’t He do that on His own?) Yes He can and does but He also needs us to do this too. He does this through us. We have free will and we can decide what we want to do. We can go ahead and share the Love He gives to us or block it from our awareness and think He doesn’t even exist. It is all right whatever we decide. Because He gives us all the Love there is AND free will. We can accept it or not. The sun shines down on us all the time. It doesn’t ask for anything and does not judge whether we believe in the sun or not, it just does what it does without expectations.
God’s Love is similar. His Love for us is beyond measure and it is ours whether we accept it or not. We also have free will. God gives us His Love and if we don’t believe in Him He will allow us to follow our own path until we come to the realization that maybe, just maybe, our lives would be better with Him giving us a little guidance.
This brings us to the issue of allowing. God allows us to follow our own path. He has given us lessons and examples throughout our time on this planet on how to be and what to do. What we need to do is to allow God’s Love to flow through us and bring Love to all things.
Really, it is as simple as that. Of course simple is not always easy. Sometimes simple is definitely NOT easy! When we have someone in our face who is coming from a place of fear and claiming all sorts of “knowledge” about how life should be it is definitely not easy. It is still simple, however. The only choices we have in life are Love and fear. If we are not bringing Love to the issue at hand then there is a fear that should be addressed.
Should be addressed and can be addressed are two different things. There are some who own their fears so strongly that there is no moving forward in Love. There are some who feel that their fears are really a reflection of their love. Everyone needs to step back and take a deep breath and look to see how they can bring Love to the situation.
This is where allowing comes into play. We need to come from a true space of Love that we can allow the other person to walk the path they choose. This does not mean that the other person has a right to walk all over the other but it means that we need to rise to Love and move forward on that.
This may mean that we need to walk away from the situation until the other is able to come back and “play nice.” It is sad if the fear-based folk are family members. Family dynamics are the trickiest to handle sometimes. We need to remember that in the words of Richard Bach in his book, “Illusions” “The members of your true family are not necessarily blood related.”
Your real family is the group of people who are there for you without judgment, the ones who will support you when it’s needed and call you on your crap when that’s needed too. Blood family members do this too but sometimes they are too close to see the big picture. There is a huge difference between calling someone on their crap and just bringing negativity into the relationship. We don’t need people in our lives who seem to be always bringing negativity into our lives.
This is not a “Pollyanna, New Age or Disney” mentality that has no basis in reality. Your toxic “friends” are the ones who have a fractured idea of reality. If you could step back and see the big picture you would see the holes in their thinking. Usually there is a fear-based agenda that has more to do with their personal path than the one with you. It is important to step back, breathe and look at the situation with Love, without judgment and then make a wise choice to move forward with or without them.
There have been countless tests and blind studies about attitude and its effect on good health. Most of the illness in this country is stress related. Just look at the amount of drug commercials on TV. Do you notice that the majority of them are in and around the news programs? It’s like they induce you to watch a program that increases your dis-ease and then they offer the antidote, how nice. But then at the end of the offer they mention that the side affects my cause all kinds of unrest to your system maybe even death! Just the medicine I want to take for my depression, NOT!
Bringing Love to any situation is just good health. It just makes good sense. It is all about choice. How do you want to feel, which choice will bring you a greater sense of peace and a fulfilled life? You do have the choice to be how you want but don’t you want to feel better?
If we feel better we can share His Love which each other. That is what He wants of us. Each day we need to listen to Him with prayer or meditation or even doing something that will open our mind to His message. Maybe a walk in the woods or go sailing would help (you know I had to get sailing into this somehow!) And then take that message into the world with Love in your heart.
To some, this may sound frivolous or naïve but what it really is is a return to the Source and bring the Love back to the forefront in all we do. The world will continue whatever we choose but wouldn’t it be a better place if we brought Love to all we did in life? How do you think that could come to be?
Only by making the first choice. Only by standing up to the fear mongers and say, “That is enough!” “You have a right to be the way you are but you have no right to create a toxic life for me. No matter how right you think you are!”
Which brings us back to the power of allowing. We need to allow others to be the way they are but we don’t need to accept their behavior in our life. We need to bless them and let them go on their path. Their path is theirs and ours is ours. It is a respect for others so you can expect to have respect for yours. You may not always get it but you can still expect it. It really doesn’t matter whether you get the respect or not. The important thing is that you allow them their path with Love and no judgment and do the same for yourself. This second half is most important. Jesus said in order to be able to Love others we must first Love ourselves. It is the second commandment. The first being, Love the Father with all your heart.
When we allow others to walk their path it also gives us the power to let ourselves walk our own. We have the strength to stand up for ourselves because we aren’t wasting our energy trying to control others. It may be tricky to see someone we care about almost drive off the proverbial cliff but we cannot live their lives. Besides, we should be busy trying to live our own.
It is not Loving to try to make someone in our own image. Besides there is no way we could have the resources to make that happen. As much as we wish and hope for someone to change, the change will only happen from within. God has the power to do this but He gives us free will to decide for ourselves. It is our path. Sure, He will throw in a signpost or an event that will give us the opportunity to choose Love instead of fear but it all boils down to OUR choice and nobody else’s.
And yes, we get frustrated when someone we care about continually chooses fear instead of Love, but again, there is nothing we can do about it but Love them without judgment, without conditions and without expecting them to change into what we want. Should we expect more of ourselves than God? God expects each of us to be the best we can be, to choose Love as often as possible and move forward in His Love. This can only work if we allow each other to walk their path and choose Love in all we do. Let’s be an example of this Love instead of a harbinger of fear.
Remember the balance. If you need to make a choice, weigh the choice against fear or Love. If it is not coming from Love then there is fear involved and it needs to be addressed. If there is Love involved then embrace it!
It really is simple but, understandably, not easy. This whole Love thing is a process, a path unto itself. It is a path that we have the freedom to choose, or not. When we do choose this path we will find that our lives become better in many ways. Our stress level goes down, our blood pressure goes down the hormones that cause many diseases decrease. Only good can come of choosing Love instead of fear. Remember too that this is a path, a lifestyle that is a process. We shift our diets, we exercise and we can choose to bring Love into our lives each day.
Let us remember this simple choice and begin to notice the changes that take place in our lives. And, interestingly enough, those around us will begin to shift as well. It has been scientifically proven that when people start bringing Love into their lives that those around them will benefit as well. Let’s benefit all those around us and see how life changes for the better. Gandhi said, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” We need to be who we need to be first before we can expect any change outside of ourselves. As we grow, so will those around us because our vision will be more clear and we will see that, they too, are on a path. Maybe by seeing your change they will change. Like pebbles in the pond, our influence will keep spreading.
Breathe into this change, embrace this change! Just allow yourself to be and feel better. Allow and feel the power come back to you!
Peace, Love and Coconuts!
s/v Margaret Elizabeth